Hi Reader,

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For a long time in my life I feel confident in saying the fear of failure is what drove me.

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• Competitive in gymnastics until I was 12
• Highly competitive in volleyball until I was 19
• Went to one of the most competitive high schools in the country
• Followed by working at Creative Artists Agency (CAA), one of the most competitive talent agencies in the world
• Straight to Media Arts Lab (MAL) - one of the most competitive advertising agencies.

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The pattern is……palpable.

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Looking back, I have much compassion (and grief) for myself.

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I was deeply exhausted but my poor nervous system really didn’t know any better. I didn’t know any better and didn’t know how to break the cycle.

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It wasn’t until 2018 when I left my corporate job and the illusion of stability and safety to venture into the unknown waters of entrepreneurship, when I was literally required to put myself out there, that I realized maybe I didn’t just have a fear of failure.

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Maybe I had an equal, if not deeper, fear of being seen.

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This fear of being seen, that many of us have, is what I talk about and provide resources for, this month with Cher Hale of Ginkgo PR on Doing it for the Attention, her organization and podcast that support under-recognized voices take back their narratives through the media.

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Entrepreneurship required and still requires a level of visibility that I never had to confront in a corporate setting.

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I had/have to be vulnerable with myself about what my vision was/is and then communicate that out into the world on a pretty consistent basis.

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And then in 2021 when I started acting and performing? Whew 😮‍💨.

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Another level of allowing myself to be seen - all parts of me - in a way I had never experienced or dealt with before.

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And then coming out publicly as queer in 2024?

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You get the point.

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Has this fear gone away? F**k no. But has it gotten easier? Yes, absolutely.

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How?

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1.) Identifying my own beliefs and fears about being visible:

• People will not take me seriously or I will be ridiculed
• On a deeper level:
  • it’s not safe
  • *I* am not safe
  • I will be vulnerable to harm from others
  • I won’t be able to “escape.”

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2.) Using EFT Tapping to create the necessary space and safety in my nervous system to bring acknowledgment and acceptance to those fears while also beginning to shift those into a new/different belief system.

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3.) Take consistent, small actions to be visible within my nervous system’s window of tolerance

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4.) Find, build and sustain community of people on / in a similar journey who can help me see myself clearly (and vise versa) and also gently hold me accountable (and vise versa)

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This is the main topic of conversation in my chat with Cher.

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We discuss:

• My personal journey with visibility
• How to use EFT Tapping to confront your own fears around it
• A short EFT Tapping sequence around visibility fear that you can start using today

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We also discuss the ways in which The Everyday Artist Community, which opens its doors on March 12th, has pushed me into a new level of visibility.

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I’m very clear that allowing my fears of being seen help no one except these extractive systems we live within and these powers at be who thrive, like energy vampires, off of me and all of us staying small and hidden.

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It doesn’t mean you need to get up on stage, be an “influencer” or be visible in ways that feel unnatural and inauthentic to you.

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It just means allowing yourself to be seen in the ways that feel right in your soul, take you to your growth edge, allow you to evolve and be the fullest version of you.

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The world needs that - literally - more than ever right now.

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Sending you rest and care,

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Bianca

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113 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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